It is one thing to acknowledge that we have issues with our bodies and our diets. We can agree with a meaningful nod that, “Oh, yes, I hate that, too,” and feel warmth and comfort in the bosom of our other fat (or thin)-shamed friends. Things get a little dicey […]
I tweeted: working on a post about weight and shame. Got any thoughts? It did not take long for the responses to start flying through, and man, they were tough, and honest and real. And then I deleted everything I had written and started from scratch. A guy said: “I […]
This post was originally published July 11, 2011. I killed my site by accident this winter, and lost all the amazing comments on this post. Leave some new good ones, eh? So, I need a better internal editor. The model I have now tends correct my mouth too little too […]
No one sat on the metal bleachers. We huddled in small groups under blankets, jackets, umbrellas, under the canopy of low, grey clouds. Rain fell in spurts and gushes alternately. As soon as we thought we might be able to see something, the rain came again. Our daughters ran on […]
In The Practice of Love, a collaborative book of essays to which I contributed, I write about an early experience with bathing suits that still sends shivers up my spine. Most women I know, in every shape and size, experience some level of body-shaming as swim suit season approaches. We swallow […]