Hold Me: The Teenage Years

Gather ’round, folks. Scoot your rockers closer, stop playing with your dentures and simmer down. Kids these days. My parents never had to shoo us out the door in the summer. We lived outside in the summer. From sun up to way past sun down. We’d wake, shove a bowl full of sugary cereal into […]

The French Knot

To look at him, you’d see a young man, not unlike other young men. Kind, funny, hard working, committed. You might notice his phone’s wallpaper, two sets of bright blue eyes, wide, toothy smiles. Notice the gold band on his left hand, see how his right hand might play with the ring; still surprised and […]

The Swimwear Manifesto

This post was originally published July 11, 2011. I killed my site by accident this winter, and lost all the amazing comments on this post. Leave some new good ones, eh?  So, I need a better internal editor. The model I have now tends correct my mouth too little too late and then I have […]

The Untied Lace

Half into the run, the aglet clicked at my heel. Each left foot step brought it flinging back to strike my bare ankle. Something a friend had said a week earlier flicked my mind like the aglet pelted my heel. She had said something about the untied lace. I didn’t know what she meant, but […]

Remember When…

  Sit down right now. Give me this moment. Write whatever’s running through you. You might start with “this moment” and end up writing about the gardenia you wore at your wedding seven years ago. That’s fine. Don’t try to control it. Stay present with whatever comes up, and keep your hand moving. — Natalie […]

Why I Run: DeAnne’s Story

DeAnne is one of the most faithful runners I know. She sticks to a plan, she is positive and encouraging. And if you see her logging miles on Riverside, she’ll stop and talk and give me a chance to catch my breath. And isn’t she lovely? Many times over the past six years, different people […]

A Week in the Life

Sometime during advent, my friend Kristin ran a post of instagram photos describing a particular aspect of advent. I don’t recall the exact theme, but I do recall the photos. In one, we saw a dark alley hung with Christmas lights, and a dumpster in the foreground. The image was full in its simplicity, rich […]

Articulating the Pain

Here I am approaching the Finish Line Welcome to the first and probably last segment of Deep Thoughts with Jen. You may have followed along as I trained for and ran my first marathon. Your attention to this weirdness is to your credit, or discredit. You may even be suffering along with me in what […]

My Other Mothers

My mom rocks. She is smart, funny and kind. She laughs at my jokes while chiding me for being mildly inappropriate. We are both in on the joke: I am only mildly inappropriate to make her laugh. She has the best laugh. Most people don’t know she has a wicked sense of humor. Her nickname […]


I had a two hour window. We had carved it out of a weekend that seemed to shrink the more people I added to my list of “must see” friends. But this time, it was understood by all who know us, was sacred. No one messes with my time with Bea. She retrieved me from […]